How does a child must grow?

How does a child must grow? A child must be raised not just to get them grow. Parenting is not an easy job and we all know that. It is not a harsh meaning of sacrifice because it is our obligation to give them a good life, a good education and an experience of a life free from harm and abuse. On the first day, the time that we gave this child life and breath, we already have expectations that we plan to give and a joy to receive from them. Eyes that open widely and ready to receive what the world offers, sounds that cling to their ears whenever there is silence for when the world is busy around them,they also hear their noise and sweet laughter that fills the room and it sounds like music in our ears, when everytime they cry and stop sobbing after we’ve attended to their needs.

Attachment is important from newborn to a raising child. Since birth, a mom always gives whatever the baby needs. When they cry, we want to help them ease the cause of their tears and help them as much as possible carry out the tears from falling quickly until suddenly be comforted. Tending children is like herding cats and dogs. Basically from the trending age of kids nowadays from birth upto 3 years old and up they become more independent. They are capable of taking care of themselves in a way they know and they could do things though it might not be the percfect one but could be right on such time it was done.

There are times they need to be nudged. Sometimes, because we love them so much some parents tend to forget that we are here to guide them not to control them. Let them see how the world goes with how the way they handle things by themselves with our guidance so they must know on how to engage in different things and learn how to deal with it with so much confidence that they could even give their parents a last look saying, “You are right mom, you are right dad. Look at me now. See how I become a successful  perosn because of You.”  We as parents are to set an example for them. By giving them a chance to grow up without much cuddling and controlling them, they are leading to a more patient and understandnding person as they should. They learn how to be more calm and listen to things they have to know and must change for their betterment. Eventually, kids grow with minds and feelings on how they should be after their surroundings. When was the last time that you explaned it to them that you are doing these great things because you want them not just to be the best but a better person in a way they would understand that you are not dismissing what they have to say. You have a toddler for two years and not too long you have a  child for five years.

Time flies quickly and you won’t even notice that by another three years you already have a preteen. This is the age where they really level up and break the curiousity out of the box from what their mind could reach. Just serve as their friend, a mom, a teacher, the best that they could ever have for an ear and someone who is always there to listen. A 

ground rules wherein they start to break if they feel like they are no longer free to do what makes them happy. We just need to have them realised that  Cwhatever it takes, they must always be accountable for that and so they will always be positive in appreciating a good decision.Come what may it fails, just make sure we regularly communicate with them so they would know that we value what they say.

From the time they age as a teenager, they know the full responsibility for every  action they make. Boys know how to clean toilets, do the dishes, cook, groom themselves,etc, just as much as they learn how to do boys things. Girls should learn how to work on cars, dig a sprinkler ditch in the backyard, paint the house, etc just as much as learning how to manicure their nails. In short, we have to teach them the practicality of life wherein they will live with it and would survive i because they know how to do it independently.

“ And then they’re off. Take care in what you do with those years. They are few, though they may seem like many.” Lucky we are if were given a child. For they are the most wonderful blessing we could ever have. We only need to get them prepared in everything until the world is gone from us and they have to live on their own. It is how they were grown and from there, they will take it for good…